Chastity can be challenging, especially if it’s your first time. The very idea behind it is to surrender control of your sexual pleasure to your partner completely. They will decide when you can be aroused or have an orgasm. If this is something you find interesting, you might need a couple of tips before you are ready to try it.
How Difficult Is It to Lose Control of Your Own Orgasm?
Chastity can be a lot of fun, but only if you want it. In reality, no one can force you into it, and it would defeat its purpose. So, how difficult is it to lose control of your orgasms? The answer is quite easy. Doing something you enjoy is never a problem, and male chastity is no different.
If you decided to try it out with your partner, you probably went through everything, both with them and in your head. Also, assuming that you decided to try it because you find it sexy or exciting, there is a high chance you’ll enjoy it.
But chastity lifestyle is so much more than simply not having orgasms. It is a part of power play, and you will surrender a significant part of your life to your partner. That also means that there should be an incredible amount of trust between you and your sweetheart.
However, there will still be a period of adapting, where you will have to get used to not being able to have an orgasm whenever you decide. It will give you a chance to see the world with new eyes, and even deepen the connection with your keyholder.
The Different Struggles of Wearing a Chastity Cage for the First Time
Being in chastity can be challenging, especially for beginners. The first and most obvious problem will be getting used to wearing it for a longer period. Naturally, if you are inexperienced, you won’t jump straight to it 24/7. You will need to start slow and build your way up. Using any kind of chastity device takes time, but as long as it’s something you desire, you won’t have any problems.
But one of the main struggles comes from choosing inadequate devices. Many men are eager to try cages so that they don’t spend enough time finding a perfect toy. Since every person is different, you need to find a toy that’s just the right size and type.
Once you get it, you will have a lot easier time staying in it. While the device will still be a bit uncomfortable, as long as there is no pain, everything will be well. You will also need to work on your mindset to ensure that you’re able to remain in the cage for as long as you and your partner agree.
Focus on the Task
The best way to survive being in chastity is to focus on the task. If you set yourself a challenge, stick to it and try thinking of the endgame. As we already mentioned, you won’t be wearing the cage for a week if you are a beginner. A couple of hours is something you’ll be able to achieve, though.
The major part of chastity is frustration, and not being able to touch yourself can be quite frustrating. But this feeling can also be addicting. Over time, you might notice that sexual frustration is often more rewarding than having an orgasm.
Of course, if that’s not the case with you, you can always focus on the reward that comes in the end.
Avoid Any Sexually Arousing Content
Having an orgasm while wearing a cock cage is nearly impossible. At least if you want to enjoy it. The device is designed so you can’t get a full erection, and it can only cause you more discomfort.
As a result, you might want to avoid any type of sexual content completely. That means that you should avoid porn like the plague or any other thing that you would otherwise enjoy. However, some partners love to spice things up with tease and denial, and watching your partner squirm is something many dominants enjoy. Based on the type of relationship you are in, your partner might do all the things you love to make it more difficult for you.
If this is not the case, then you should stick to non-sexual content, and try to focus on the task at hand.
One of the best ways to stop thinking about sex is to be active. That is a perfect chance for you to do all the things you enjoy. If you love working out, walking, running, or anything else, now is the time.
You might have delayed some activities like mowing your lawn or redecorating the kitchen. Focusing on that will significantly ease your “suffering.” Once you start working on something else, you will forget that you are even wearing a cock cage.
But even if you don’t have any housework, you can always read, watch movies, enjoy spending time with your partner, etc. The only important thing is to keep yourself busy.
Meditation is an excellent way to clear your mind and become emotionally stable. If you never had experience with meditation, you can use this opportunity to explore it. Clearing your mind can significantly improve the situation and help shift your focus away from your private parts.
Besides reducing horniness levels, there are many other benefits for you and your partner. Meditation is known to reduce stress, keep anxiety at bay, enhance self-awareness, and many other things.
But it can also help with a battle against addiction. Now, it doesn’t mean that you are addicted to masturbation, but the idea behind meditation can be useful. It can help you redirect your attention and focus on other things, which might prove to be a perfect thing for someone wearing a cock cage.